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On the day of Heller’s life celebration, his grandmother (Mapa) said these words:

“Many people have mentioned the fact that this tragedy (the loss of our sunshine) is heightened by the fact that it happened around Christmas, and they wonder how we will ever get through another Christmas.

Christmas is Christ’s day and we will continue to celebrate Jesus on that day! But December 22nd will be a day reserved for celebrating the life of Heller, and we will celebrate on that day (and perhaps a few days prior to) the way he would want us to. On that day, we will go out and make a change, do a good deed, and let the world know that a little boy once lived for that special reason.”

So, on December 22nd, Heller’s friends and family will honor his memory by spreading random (and deliberate) acts of kindness to others. We encourage you to go out and spread some kindness of your own.

Then, if you would like to, please leave a comment or send an email to and share what you did, what you witnessed, or what others did for you so we may share Heller's impact with others. So we can remember that we are still celebrating his life!

Have You Received a Kindness Inspired by Heller?

If you received a card like the one below, and/or a kindness inspired by Heller, please share your story, so we may know how Heller's kindness touched the lives of others. You may leave a comment, or you may email your story to be posted on the blog to

Help this Site Grow Because of Heller

This year, we are making the choice to look forward to December 22nd! We cannot wait to share Heller's kindness with others. We know there will be difficult times as the date grows nearer, so we look forward to stopping by this site during those times to see what kindnesses are growing and to share stories of our kindnesses as well.

Please feel free to send an email to with any suggestions, comments, thoughts, or ideas about how we can make December 22nd even more special "Because of Heller."

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Kindness and Kisses

Kisses and Kindness_BOH 2010 Dec. 1

Heller loved our game. I can still hear him in my heart, laughing each time his bear nose clicked with mine. The magnets, secretly hidden within the snout of these lovebird bears ensured that their kisses would hold tightly together—at least until a greater force pulled them apart.

I tilted my bear side to side, pretending to create a serious dialogue with Heller’s bear. “So, as I was saying,” I would begin, “I want to share an important message with…” Before I could finish, Heller would press his bear into mine and the lips would lock. My bear was rendered speechless. Of course, my bear would object, as a woman with something to say would, but Heller would just laugh and laugh.

Oh that laughter…

It wasn’t until just last year that I noticed the bear noses formed a heart. I imagine I was too enchanted by my own heart, standing before me with his twinkling eyes full of mischief and delight, to notice.

For the last two years, each time I pulled out our bears, to begin our holiday decorating, I longed for our game. I longed for my little boy and his laughter. But, each time those lips lock together, I know the kiss is a kiss from Heller.

This year, I am able to share the game with Nicholas, Heller’s brother, who is now old enough to understand. I explained to him that our game came from Heller. He understands that too.

Today’s Kindness Reminder:
Play with your children. Make them laugh. Show them your heart, and let them show you theirs. There is no greater force that can ever pull that away!

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